Intuition Wounding

Intuition Wounding

Your intuitive senses are a natural part of who you are.  We are born with our intuitive senses open and functioning.   Most institutional structures (education, family, government, corporations, scientific, religious, etc.)  do not value or respect intuition.  You may experience emotional and physical wounding as a result of your intuition.   At the age of 18 I experienced a trauma and I “fainted”.  At that moment I lost all memories before age 16.  Later I came to know that the amnesia I experienced was from ‘seeing’ the truth behind the trauma.  Shortly after that event, I began experiencing debilitating migraines.  I was guided to meditation by psychotherapists as a possible tool for reducing my migraines.  While the meditation released me from the grip of debilitating migraines over many years of practice it also started a gradual process of re-opening my intuitive centers and allowing bits of my memories to come back.  The migraines were caused by the tension created by the demands of two worlds.  One world was the world where information was from structured sanctioned institutional sources and intuitive information was deemed worthless.  The other world was creative, in the flow of life, intuitive and trusting of self.   I was being pulled in two.   Being pulled in two different directions also created imbalances in the left and right sides of my body which created physical maladies and limiting emotional patterns. 

You may ‘know’ that something is not good for you yet you suppress that knowing and do what is against your better interest to maintain institutional relationships.  For example, You go to the doctor, and you are told that you need to go on a drug for elevated cholesterol, which is only marginally high.  You ‘know’ this drug is bad for you, yet you relent and take the drug.  Physicians, by their training, put little or no value, on a client’s knowing.   Some medical clinics have policies that will reject you as a patient if you do not adhere to their physician’s orders.   One year later you have developed a secondary malady from the cholesterol drug for which there is no cure and requires that you now take another drug that is very expensive for the rest of your life.  A sampling of the emotional patterns being played out in this scenario are:

  • Not trusting yourself
  • Afraid to stand up to authority
  • Not good enough
  • Afraid of being judged
  • Fear of being overrun
  • Powerlessness
  • Unable to defend yourself
  • Don’t know what is best for you
  • Fear of being rejected and punished
  • Feeling worthless
  • ‘Knowing’ is wrong
  • I can’t make my own decisions
  • When I make a decision is wrong

These emotional patterns did not start with the medical incident; they started as a child and maybe epigenetic or ancestral in origin.  Within my practice of Remen Q this trauma has now created a new emotional pattern with a unique vibration.  The ground for this wounding was started by religious, cultural, educational, government, and family institutions from birth.   The religious dogmas created severe punishments for anyone that exhibited intuition.  The word psychic became a word of ridicule.  Within a family, you were labeled weird or the black sheep if you demonstrated intuition.  Education reflected the values of the local religious and family cultures.  For example, I learned about Helen Keller, an activist for the deaf and blind,  as a child in school.  I studied her story in class and read a book about her.  Nowhere in any of that information was it mentioned that she was intuitive.  That information had been left out due to influence from educational boards that represented the local cultural values.   The list of examples of how institutions denigrate, punish, and reject intuitive information and the intuitive is very long.  Our institutions have worked very hard to keep the use of intuition out of our decision making.

Early Christian education makes it clear you are evil and talking to the devil if you were intuitive.  Your destiny, if you were intuitive, was eternal damnation.   You learned to not ask questions.  You learned to escape the chaos of conflicting information received from the adults around you and the intuitive information you ‘knew’ by shutting down your authentic self.  You learned to feel guilt and shame knowing that you were going to hell.  You learned that you must keep secret your knowing.  You learned you were not good enough.  You learned there was something wrong with you.  You learned to quiet the inner voice, not trust yourself, discount the inner imagery, and ignore the ‘knowing’.  You learned to watch those around you and mimic their behavior so none would know your secret.

The Clairs

Our intuitive senses are called clairs. The word clair is French for clear.  Clairs are fields of awareness, coupled with physiological receptors, that flow streams of information from the universal mind.   Each clair uniquely conveys information.  The clairs defined in this article are clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudient, claircognizance, clairempathy, clairalience, clairtangency, and clairgustance.*  Sometimes multiple clairs will be experienced at one time and a person will experience multiple streams of information.  For example, your inner voice is telling you information, you have a knowing and simultaneously you are experiencing imagery.    

*There may be many intuitive senses that we experience but do not yet know how to label and translate the information being received. 

The clairvoyance sense ‘sees’ what is hidden.  Clairvoyance may be the seeing of what is hidden at the moment, future, or past events. Sometimes the seeing takes the form of vignettes, symbols, sounds, or colors; a vision.   Clairvoyant information of the future will be the most probable outcome of many possibilities at that moment.   

Clairsentience is a feeling you get in your body usually in response to a situation.  You may refer to it as a ‘gut’ feeling.  Clairsentience could be your whole body or a sensation in your heart region.  You may experience sensing or feeling of disease, thoughts, or emotions of others.  

Claircognizance is a knowing.  You may have a knowing of danger or the potential for harm.  You don’t know what the danger is but you have a knowing of impending harm.  When evaluating a statement as to its truth you may have knowing that the statement is truthful or false.  This sense is based on a feeling you experience.  You may get the answers to questions without any objective data…you have a knowing.  

Clairalience (also known as clairessence or clairscent) is the ability to smell and discern information about what you are smelling.  Some people experience the vibration of disease through smell.  They have learned that each disease has a unique smell.  Diabetes will smell different from lung cancer to someone with an awakened and informed intuitive sense of clairalience.   The clairalience sense may be experienced as a smell that is associated with a memory. This sense may also manifest as smelling the emotions or feelings of another.  

Clairaudience is hearing voices beyond the human hearing sense.  This can take the form of hearing the thoughts of someone close to you.  You experience hearing an inner voice warn you of an upcoming difficulty.  Clairaudience may be experienced by hearing the voices or sounds of the past in a space.

Clairempathy is the ability to sense the emotions or feelings of another.  

Clairtangency (psychometry) is the ability to feel, see, hear, and/or know information by touching an object.  Objects hold the vibration, energetic signature, of a person that has touched the object.  

Clairgustance is the experience of tasting energetic information.  You may experience taste sensations that do not correlate with food or drink.   

The Wounding

When an emotional wound is experienced because of intuition the clair ability to flow information is greatly reduced.  Open clairs are part of a balanced healthy body.  If you have emotional imbalances that affect your clair(s) they will also affect your body.   For example, you have a vision of something that is going to happen.  You share that vision with a friend and they ridicule you or attack you.  You may feel humiliated, attacked, and shut down the use of that skill or no longer share your visions.  The shutting down of the flow of universal wisdom may serve institutional control but it does not serve the universal being.  This reduction of universal wisdom is a restriction of the flow of life force; it is a state of non-peace.  Shutting down your clairvoyance because of being humiliated and attacked could translate into pancreatic dysfunction such as diabetes or pancreatic dysfunction, thymus, parathyroid, thyroid, and/or autoimmune disorders.

A clair will be wounded when there is a withdrawal of love or acceptance.  A child is chastised for saying something that causes an adult to face an uncomfortable truth.  The child then feels unloved and unwanted.  They are told by an adult that they do not know what they are talking about.  Or they will be called stupid and/or publicly humiliated.  The child is sent away to their room or the outside.  Receiving information through a clair for a child is a transparent process.  They do not yet filter.  They only start filtering, shutting down clair information when they start to fear the ramifications of saying what they know or observe.   In this case, they may also reduce their conversations with adults to avoid rejection and feeling unloved.   This shutting down of speech may result in the onset of throat, vocal cord, immune system, and lymph gland maladies.

Some intuitives learn early in their lives that to stay safe they must hide their clair skills.  They suppress the sharing of universal wisdom and lie about the source of information.  Not being able to be your authentic self becomes a life of quiet desperation.  In time this quiet desperation may become a diseased heart or a contracted and painful digestive system.  Lifeforce does not flow and that is reflected in relationships and career decisions; they are stagnant.  You learn to language clair info in a way that makes the information safe.   You may end up leaving out information that is more specific so that the wisdom will be safe.  I would take clair information and then wrap it in logic.  I would often research what I had learned until I had been able to get confirmation.  I did not trust that I would be safe with friends or family until I had done this.  

Most ACOAs, Adult Children of Alcoholics (any adult that grew up in a home where alcohol, drug addiction, or mental health were issues), have the skill of clairempathy.  This is essential to their survival.  They detected the feelings and state of the alcoholic, drug addict, or mentally unstable adult and their co-dependents to stay safe.  They adopt a role and way of being based on the sense of what will keep them safe.  The ACOA will have very weak boundaries.   An ACOA may develop pancreatic, autoimmune disorders, lung disease, skin issues, and bone/joint disorders.    

 A clairvoyant sense may show us possible future events or what happened in the past.  A vision of future events is based on the most probable outcome of a myriad of possibilities.   If you share clairvoyant information you will be judged if it is wrong and probably ignored if you were right.  You may learn to not trust yourself.  You begin to not listen to your inner knowing.  You may feel judged, betrayed, diminished, and rejected.  These feelings then create emotional patterns that then bring in more experiences of being judged, betrayed, diminished, and rejected.

If one of your ancestors had clair senses that brought them punishment you may have been born with the epigenetics of that past trauma.  That past emotional trauma may have been exile, ridicule, humiliation, ex-communication, rejection, etc.   This ancestor may well have also endured physical torture, hardship, and possible death at the behest of religious leaders, local government, and or community for possessing a clair sense.  For example, an ancestor may have learned to be very good at determining which herbs would facilitate the healing of a malady.  The ancestor learned this skill from another ancestor and developed their abilities of ‘knowing’ the healing properties of a plant.  The head of a local church decided that they were doing the work of the devil.  This ancestor was then beaten and possibly killed.  At the least, they would have been driven from the community for being evil.  This event would have had a chilling effect on their family.  The relatives would have been viewed with suspicion by the community.  They would have had to deny their family member and part of their identity to stay in the community.   An epigenetic influence is triggered and then expressed in the descendent when an herbal remedy is presented to them for use with a malady (this is a possible effect).  You experience the trauma being carried in your epigenetics.  You may become fearful of anyone expressing intuitive wisdom.  You may develop an intense aversion to religions and more.

When you feel forced to abandon your intuitive senses there is a feeling of loss.  You will then grieve the loss.  The intuitive senses are a part of your authentic self and sense of empowerment.  Grief may take the form of depression, anger, a sense of self-betrayal, hatred of community/family,  or blame.  These emotional states of non-peace will eventually become physical maladies.  

People use the word psychic as a form of ridicule.  I can remember many times telling someone what may happen (no filters) and I would hear back ‘what are you psychic?’ or ‘how do you know that’ or ‘can you prove that’.  It was meant to denigrate and deny the information.  Those statements were meant to shut me down.  To give the information and me no value.  I was not good enough to ‘know’.

Un-Wounding a Clair

Clair senses are poorly understood by most people.  Their development and skillful use are even less understood.   To begin the un-wounding, pay attention to where you feel additional tension, cramping, or pain in your body as you read the wounding information above.*  These may be the wounds you carry or they may trigger a parallel concept of wounding not mentioned.  For example, as I worked on this article I felt an intense achy pinch at the base of my neck and top of my shoulder.  The ache went up the side of my neck into the base of my skull.  I felt I was unsupported in carrying a heavy load and there was no one to ask for help.  This was a childhood wounding of knowing and clairempathy.   I Remen Q’d** the created pattern and the dull ache dissolved and I felt at peace.

Many different energetic methods teach how to open and clear the intuitive centers.  These methods are a band-aid, a temporary fix that can lead to discomfort.  There may be layers of wounding that will result in the shutting down of the clair again and the return of the emotional wound.  The wound needs to be neutralized to peace and this may be an iterative process.  This will bring the clair back to normal functioning.  The lack of peace will always be felt in the heart.  If you do not feel the wound in your heart, the contraction, you may have numbed your heart to the pain of that wound.  Start with the wound of numbing your heart.

More Information

I have written two articles that may be of interest in your journey if you come from a dysfunctional family.  I have made Wounding of the Empathic Sense and ACOA: Adult Children of Alcoholics articles on the Emotional Patterns website available to the general public for the next 30 days.   

 

https://emotionalpatterns.com/wounding-of-the-empathic-sense/

https://emotionalpatterns.com/acoa-adult-children-of-alcoholics/

The Wounded Intuitive

by Valeria Moore

  • Fear being found out
  • Fear of crowds
  • Fear of being exposed to the crowd
  • Fear of being wrong before a crowd
  • Fears exposure
  • Fears being vulnerable
  • Fears shame
  • Fears guilt
  • Fears exile
  • Fears being a sinner
  • Fear of being killed
  • Fear of being tortured
  • Fear of being ridiculed
  • Fear of being diminished
  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of being alone
  • Fear of not having enough
  • Fear of financial hardship
  • Fear of being wrong
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fears others using them
  • Fear of being seen
  • Fear of their infinite nature
  • Fear of being boundless
  • Fear of knowing more than others
  • Fear of being unwanted
  • Fear of being feared
  • Fear of being unloved

Emotional States

  • A nightmare from the past (ancestral) has regressed spiritual or consciousness growth.  It is meant to be a warning from another time that evolving beyond those around you will not be met with open arms – a warning that they will be met with ridicule, shame, guilt, exile and call sinful. (Nightmare may have  involved crowds.)
  • Use and  abuse.  Clair senses have been used in a way that impairs spiritual growth. Example: The clair skills are developing and instead of using them to guide the learning and healing of themselves and others, they use them to allow others to abandon their own responsibility and ownership.
  • Judged wrong by others.  Information made available from the clair senses has been judged wrong before truth is known.  Feeling judged, shuts down further clair flow until illness takes you to a healing.
  • Listening wrongly; clair information is sent through an institutional filter (religion, education, culture, etc.) that impairs the purity and clarity of the message of a higher awareness.  This will create a lack of trust and distorts the wisdom to where it is no longer of any value or help; it is the objective of institutions to destroy any information not sanctioned by the institution.  ( Our higher awareness is meant to provide us with information that opens us to that next level of understanding.  That next level of understanding allows us to transform states of non-peace.  Understanding brings us to wisdom and peace.)
  • Harsh light brought to bear on their life creates fear of exposure – diminishing them.  They hide to stay safe.  Use of their clair sense would bring attention and further diminishment.
  • They are being called to address their own boundaries from their own woundedness.  They are being tasked with the responsibility and ownership of their non-peace; their wounding.  They may create distractions and suppress their knowingness to keep themselves in a numb state.
  • They feel like the information is unreliable.  They have not developed practices that focus the information.  They walk away from the development of their higher awareness senses.  They choose to let others tell them what their higher awareness has been trying to do.
  • They are deemed an outcast – different from others – they become the party entertainment.  Who they are perceived to be is now a threat to others.  Their awareness  may make their non-peace apparent.  They are relegated from a cohort to an oddity.  They become the target of ridicule and an effort to falsify their path of consciousness.
  • Hostile intentions caused the loss of the ability to filter the noise / mind chatter and intuitive information.  Keeping the mind  controlled by the monkey mind keeps them from having to  feel/ hear/ see/ smell/ know information from their higher awareness.  Because to get clear they must travel through the land of their own wounding.  They must own what the mind chatter is working to hide.

Cross Index:  Wounded Creative Core, The Wounding of the Empathic Sense

*Wounding of a clair will be reflected in the development of a disease or disorder.   For example wounding of clairvoyance may create migraines.  These potential disease and disorder emotional state connections will be explored in the specific clair.  As of 10-8-20 these are not yet written.

Created Patterns

  1. I am a freak.
  2. I am always wrong.
  3. I can’t trust myself.
  4. I am judged.
  5. I am guilty of sins against nature.
  6. I don’t belong.
  7. I am alone.
  8. I don’t know who I am.
  9. I can’t trust others.
  10. I will be killed if people find out.
  11. I am vulnerable when I am open to others.
  12. Whenever I speak people hate me.
  13. I must be invisible to be safe.
  14. When I share what I know I am shamed.
  15. When I ‘know’ I am beaten.
  16. When I let others use me I feel wanted.
  17. People only love me when they want something.
  18. People are afraid of me.
  19. People use me and then leave me.
  20. I must use my skills to survive.
  21. People make fun of me.
  22. People reject who I am.
  23. I must live my life with a façade.
  24. If I am found out I will be rejected.
  25. If I am found out I will be shamed.
  26. If I am found out I will be humiliated.
  27. If I am found out I will be tortured.
Wounded Creative Core

Wounded Creative Core

What is The Wounded Creative Core? 

We are born with the ability to create and access that inner wisdom of inspiration, our creative core.  Institutions (schools, governments, etc.), cultures and religious dogma create conform and perform structures of behavior.  These structures constrain the creative core through punishment. These punishments are designed to reinforce control over the individual and groups through the use of physical, emotional, mental, financial and spiritual violence.

The institutions put you in a box.  The religious dogma may say that you can’t step outside of their moral box and love who you want without being condemned or worse.  A culture or religion may define your life in terms of your gender. If you are a woman you may be expected to marry at age 16. Yet your heart yearns to become an astrophysicist.  If you listen to your heart’s yearning, creative core, you may lose your family, your freedom and possibly your life. As a woman born in the early 1950’s it was determined that I had a specific set of options for a job; teacher, nurse or secretary.  I was expected to get married and have children, in that order. When creativity was expressed it had to be confined to acceptable forms that adhered to the expectations of the institutions.  

When the Creative Core is wounded a plethora of trauma is experienced.  That trauma translates to rejection, feeling unwanted, fear of authority, fear of your parents, fear of being unloved, and more.  These fears and feelings become emotional states and created patterns that become our identity.  This wounding is also reflected in the wounding of the feminine and masculine aspects of who we are.

*The Wounded Creative Core will be explored in more depth in the Remen Q  Workbook book.

Fears

  • Fear of my own creative abilities
  • Fear of your sexuality
  • Fear of your body
  • Fear of rules
  • Fear of breaking the rules
  • Fear of authority
  • Fear of standing up for what you believe
  • Fear of feeling
  • Fear of having your creativity seen
  • Fear of having my creativity questioned
  • Fear of being diminished
  • Fear of judgment
  • Fear of being forced to give up creative efforts
  • Fear of not being able to defend my creativity
  • Fear of not being able to follow through with my creative ideas
  • Fear I am going the wrong way
  • Fear of having my creativity destroyed
  • Fear of having my ideas stolen
  • Fear of being destroyed by criticism
  • Fear of being shamed / humiliated for my creativity
  • Fear of being ridiculed
  • Fear of being vulnerable and open
  • Fear of being seen 
ACOA-Adult Children of Alcoholics

ACOA-Adult Children of Alcoholics

Fears

  • Fear that they will never be free to have a life without hurt/ stress
  • Fear that they will never have control of their destiny
  • Fear of life
  • Fear of being hurt
  • Fear of the crazy
  • Fear of parents
  • Fear of fear
  • Fear of being like their parents
  • Fear of acting
  • Fear of making choices
  • Fear of connecting
  • Fear of leaving
  • Fear of letting go
  • Fear of being like others
  • Fear of loving themselves
  • Fear of change
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of fun and joy
  • Fear of the truth
  • Fear of knowing

Emotional States

  • Adult children of alcoholics guess at normal (functional) behavior.
  • Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
  • Adult children of alcoholics lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
  • Adult children of alcoholics judge themselves without mercy.
  • Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty having fun.
  • Adult children of alcoholics take themselves very seriously.
  • Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty with intimate relationships.
  • Adult children of alcoholics overreact to changes over which they have no control.
  • Adult children of alcoholics constantly seek approval and affirmation.
  • Adult children of alcoholics usually feel that they are different from other people.
  • Adult children of alcoholics are super responsible or super irresponsible.
  • Adult children of alcoholics are extremely loyal.
  • Adult children of alcoholics are impulsive. They tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsiveness leads to confusion.
  • Adult Children of Alcoholics may be passive in the face of life’s challenges.

Cross Indexing: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Addictions, Sexual Abuse, Thymus Problems, Temple pain/pressure, Adrenal Fatigue, Thyroid problems, Pancreas Problems, Liver Problems

Repeated Patterns: out of balance, lack of confidence, unconnected to self, feels unsafe being heard breathing, cannot be themselves, when a project is complete they feel unsafe, cannot be themselves, cannot feel safe when seen, feels unworthy, cannot breathe and be safe, cannot nurture self, change is difficult, does not know how to feel complete with something, does not know how to cooperate, cannot cry and feel safe, feels undeserving, cannot express anger safely, cannot express emotions safely, feels unsafe while being still, feels unsafe with others, does not know how to have fun and avoids it, does not get what they want and does not know how to get what they want, does not choose happiness, does not have inner peace, does not know joy, is not kind to themselves, does not know what they are feeling, plays the victim, plays the martyr, constantly embarrassed by family, lives in constant crisis, lives constantly on high-alert, feels like a loser, constantly having to keep the secrets, feels humiliation, lives in shame, does not love themselves,  cannot make a mistake and feel safe, does not know how to feel safe, does not know how to say no, does not know how to tell the truth, does not know what truth is, does not trust their inner voice, does not trust.

Created Patterns

  1. I can’t stand still and be safe.
  2. I am never safe.
  3. I must always be doing something.
  4. The only time I am safe is when I am alone.
  5. I don’t know what it is to feel emotions.
  6. When people are angry I will be hurt.
  7. I can’t feel emotions and be safe.
  8. I fear my anger.
  9. I can’t control myself when angry.
  10. I can’t express emotions and be safe.
  11. I can’t cry and be safe.
  12. It is dangerous to feel.
  13. I must be silent and strong.
  14. I must always have a smile on my face.
  15. I’m not in charge of my thoughts and feelings.
  16. I am invisible.
  17. I am helpless.
  18. I must stay busy so I don’t feel.
  19. I must be perfect to be safe.
  20. I must be perfect to be loved.
  21. I don’t know what it feels like to have fun.
  22. I am angry at the world (The anger may be at specific individuals).
  23. I don’t know what it feels like to love myself.
  24. I don’t know what it feels like to be kind to myself.
  25. I am a procrastinator.
  26. I can’t finish anything.
  27. Promises are lies.
  28. I don’t know how to solve problems.
  29. I don’t know how to finish a project.
  30. I don’t know what it feels like to solve problems.
  31. I don’t know how to cooperate with people.
  32. I can’t focus on one thing at a time.
  33. I don’t know what structure feels like.
  34. I don’t have boundaries around my time.
  35. When I don’t finish things I am not safe.
  36. I am a loser.
  37. I am a goof off.
  38. I am no good for nothing.
  39. I can’t survive in unfamiliar circumstances.
  40. I must say what people want me to say to be safe.
  41. I must do what people want me to do to be safe.
  42. I must do what my parent says to survive.
  43. I hate my parent (You may not be ready to forgive.)
  44. I don’t know what truth feels like.
  45. I don’t know what honesty feels like.
  46. I don’t understand what it is to tell the truth.
  47. I don’t understand what it feels like to be honest.
  48. I don’t know what truth is.
  49. I don’t know what honesty is.
  50. I don’t know when to tell the truth.
  51. I don’t know when to be honest.
  52. I don’t know what it feels like to be safe.
  53. I will die if I am honest.
  54. I don’t know what it is to be honest.
  55. I don’t know what it is to be honest with my feelings.
  56. If I am honest people won’t show their true feelings.
  57. I won’t be loved if I am honest.
  58. I can’t be honest and be safe.
  59. I’m not safe dealing with the unfamiliar.
  60. I can’t say no when someone say’s ‘I love you’.
  61. I’m not responsible.
  62. I will do anything to be loved.
  63. I can’t speak my truth and be safe.
  64. I can’t speak honestly and be safe.
  65. I won’t be loved if I speak my truth.
  66. I’m not good enough.
  67. If you can’t do it perfectly don’t do it at all.
  68. I must be perfect.
  69. I caused my parent to be an alcoholic.
  70. If I am not perfect then I must be punished.
  71. If I am not perfect I am guilty.
  72. I don’t believe in myself.
  73. I can’t accept compliments.
  74. I can’t receive nice things from others.
  75. I can’t make mistakes and be safe.
  76. I can’t do anything right.
  77. I am to blame for everything.
  78. No matter how hard I try I will never win.
  79. I am a mistake.
  80. I must judge myself.
  81. I must judge everything I do.
  82. I am at fault for everything.
  83. I am always wrong.
  84. I don’t know what it feels like to have fun.
  85. I don’t know how to have fun.
  86. I don’t know how to be spontaneous.
  87. I can’t have fun and be safe.
  88. I don’t know how to play.
  89. It isn’t safe to be spontaneous.
  90. I can’t ever show I am happy.
  91. I am my job.
  92. I can’t separate myself from my job.
  93. Having fun is dangerous.
  94. I must always be on guard.
  95. To have fun is to be vulnerable.
  96. I don’t know what it feels like to let down my guard.
  97. It is dangerous to let down my guard.
  98. I am embarrassed by my family.
  99. I must keep outsiders away so that they will not know the truth.
  100. I don’t know what it feels like to have an appropriate healthy relationship with others.
  101. Love is pain.
  102. I must protect others from the truth.
  103. I am invisible.
  104. I’m not lovable.
  105. I don’t know who to trust.
  106. I don’t know how to trust.
  107. I am always in danger.
  108. I am powerless.
  109. I must give away my power to be loved.
  110. I don’t love me.
  111. I’m not worthy.
  112. I hate/was betrayed/am angry at mother/ father/ creator.
  113. The creator/ Father/ Mother abandoned me.
  114. I have no boundaries around my personal space.
  115. I don’t know what it feels like to have boundaries around my personal space.
  116. People who love me will hurt me.
  117. All people leave me.
  118. I will do anything to keep a relationship.
  119. I constantly need approval to be loved.
  120. I take care of others to be loved.
  121. I can’t rely on other people.
  122. I must do everything myself to be safe.
  123. If I don’t control everything bad things will happen.
  124. Controlling everything keeps me safe.
  125. Nothing I do is ever enough.
  126. I feel sorry for myself.
  127. Things would be better if I were not here.
  128. I must be perfect to be loved.
  129. I am always in the way.
  130. I must be good to be love.
  131. I must earn my right to be loved.
  132. I must always say yes.
  133. I am worthless.
  134. I must work harder than everyone else around me.
  135. I must do things to be special.
  136. I must be special to be loved.
  137. I don’t belong.
  138. I am alone.
  139. No one understands me.
  140. I must give away myself to be loved.
  141. I must give things to people to be loved.
  142. I am not accepted for who I am.
  143. It’s a mistake I was born.
  144. I will never fit in.
  145. I am guilty for everything.
  146. I live in a fantasy world to survive.
  147. I am afraid of people.
  148. I am responsible for the world.
  149. I carry the burden of ____________ (family member).
  150. I must take care of ____________ (family member).
  151. If I cause trouble someone will love me.
  152. I can’t do things right.
  153. I mess up to get attention.
  154. I must do more and more to be loved.
  155. I do more than everyone else so I will be loved.
  156. I don’t know how to say no.
  157. I am insecure.
  158. I am always in trouble.
  159. I must hide my feelings.
  160. Feelings are dangerous.
  161. I must not ask.
  162. I must not tell.
  163. I must not feel.
  164. I am ashamed.
  165. No one must ever know.
  166. I must hide my shame.
  167. I must protect the family secrets at all costs.
  168. The family is sacred.
  169. I must protect my mother from the outside world.
  170. I must protect my father from the outside world.
  171. I must lie to cover up what is going on at home.
  172. It is OK to treat me poorly.
  173. Change is hard.
  174. I can’t make changes easily.
  175. It is OK to live in constant crisis.
  176. I can’t have what I want when I want it.
  177. I don’t understand the possible consequences of my behavior.
  178. I can’t plan for the things I want in life.
  179. I’ll never have what I want.
  180. I can only see in the moment.
  181. I can’t be patient with others.
  182. I’m not patient with myself.
  183. I discourage easily.
  184. It’s hopeless.
  185. I can’t change things.
  186. It’s no use.
  187. Things will never be better.
  188. It’s dangerous to try and change things.
  189. ___________ humiliated me.
  190. ___________ hurt me.
  191. Being happy is selfish.
  192. Change is dangerous.
  193. Having a life purpose isn’t safe.
  194. I am a disappointment.
  195. I am always a disappointment.
  196. I am ashamed of myself.
  197. I am disappointed.
  198. I am disconnected from myself.
  199. I am going to die.
  200. I am humiliated.
  201. I am punished for being happy.
  202. I am shamed.
  203. I am shamed.
  204. I can’t be myself.
  205. I don’t know me.
  206. I don’t know what my authentic self is.
  207. I don’t know what my life is.
  208. I don’t realize my own success.
  209. I have a broken heart.
  210. I must do for others before I do for myself.
  211. I must set high standards.
  212. I will die if things change.
  213. I will make a big mistake if I trust myself.
  214. I’m not believed.
  215. I’m not confident in myself.
  216. I’m not proud of my own success.
  217. If I listen to my inner voice I will be humiliated.
  218. If I listen to my inner voice I will be shamed.
  219. If I listen to my inner voice I will lose everything.
  220. If I listen to my inner voice they will hurt me.
  221. If I make a mistake I end up in jail.
  222. If I make a mistake I will be humiliated.
  223. If I make a mistake I will be shamed.
  224. If I make a mistake I will end up broke.
  225. If I make a mistake I will end up crazy.
  226. If I make a mistake they will lock me up.
  227. If I trust my inner voice I will die.
  228. If I were myself I would be confused.
  229. If no one believes me I will be punished/ beaten.
  230. It’s not safe to live my life.
  231. Living my life purpose is selfish.
  232. My feelings are wrong.
  233. People that love me humiliate me
  234. When I am happy I am guilty.
  235. When I am happy I’m not wanted / loved.
  236. If I cry I will be hurt.
  237. Change is dangerous.
  238. You must not look at things too closely.
  239. It is dangerous to ‘see’.
  240. I will be hurt if I see.
  241. Crying is a waste of time.
  242. Crying is for babies.
  243. I can only survive if I don’t see.
  244. I can’t let them/him/her know I saw.
  245. I must not see to hide the truth.
  246. The eyes are the windows of the soul.
  247. If someone looks me in the eyes they will know (what truth are you hiding?).

Teachings

  • Balance
  • Be confident when making a decision
  • Be connected to myself
  • Be heard breathing and be safe
  • Be myself
  • Be safe when a project is finished
  • Be visible and safe
  • Being worthy
  • Breathe and be safe
  • Caring to myself
  • Change with ease and grace
  • Complete
  • Cooperate
  • Creator’s definition and perspective of love
  • Creator’s definition and perspective of perfect
  • Cry and be safe
  • Deserve
  • Express anger safely
  • Express emotions safely
  • Feel safe while being still
  • Feel safe with others
  • Feel safe with your emotions
  • Fun
  • Getting what you want
  • Happiness
  • Inner peace
  • Joy
  • Kind to myself
  • Know what I am truly feeling
  • Live being good enough
  • Live without being a martyr
  • Live without being a victim
  • Live without being embarrassed by your family
  • Live without constant crisis
  • Live without constantly being on high-alert
  • Live without feeling like a loser
  • Live without having to keep the secrets
  • Live without humiliation
  • Live without shame
  • Love myself
  • Make a promise and keep it
  • Make changes in my life and be safe
  • Make mistakes and be safe
  • Responsible
  • Safe
  • Say no
  • Solve problems
  • Spontaneous
  • Structure
  • Tell the truth
  • Think for myself
  • To be honest
  • To be honest and be safe
  • To finish a project
  • To know truth when you hear it
  • Trust
  • Trust my inner voice
  • Trust myself
  • When it is appropriate to tell the truth

*Look at themes of  workaholics, abandonment, abuse, acceptance, acknowledgement, anger, anxiety, approval, attention, authenticity, beingness, boundaries, burn out, calm, childhood, communication, confidence, control, denial, disassociation, failure, finishing things, freedom, grief, happiness, harmony, home, honesty, identity, intimacy, inner child, innocence, Joy, loving yourself, overwhelm, peace, punishment, relationships, self-esteem, self knowledge, self-love, self respect, self worth, sexual abuse, shame, speaking up, stability, trust, victimhood, addiction, unmet needs (love, affection, attention, recognition, approval, belonging, being a child),   broken heart, denial, disconnection, feelings, joy, physical abuse, power, rejection, sexual abuse, truth, stress

Wounding of the Empathic Sense

Wounding of the Empathic Sense

One of the intuitive abilities that we are born with is our empathic sense. The empathic sense allows us to feel the emotions and feelings of others. Those feelings may encompass physical feelings as well as emotional. The empathic sense sends physical feelings to the body and those signals are interpreted within the framework of other intuitive senses and beliefs. For some people this is their primary intuitive sense.

The mature developed response to empathic feelings is to acknowledge the feelings and their source. The mature response knows that these feelings are not theirs but empathic information. The mature response sees their empathic sense as the catalyst for a compassionate response; inner peace in the face of suffering.

The immature response to empathic feelings is to take in the feelings of others and make the responsibility for someone’s physical pain, anger, disappointment, failure, etc. their own. The immature empathic response was developed as a finely honed survival skill in response to an environment that appeared threatening. The energies of others may cause a highly sensitive person to feel physical and/or emotional pain.

The empathic sense becomes wounded when a child is highly sensitive to the stimuli in their environment. Anger, depression, sadness, loud voices by anyone will be terrifying for a highly sensitive child. The reaction is a wounding of the empathic sense. The highly sensitive child takes the energy of these emotions and believes it is their fault the adult is unhappy.

The highly sensitive child may feel crowded out in a household with lots of children and/or chaos. They may not feel there is a safe place to be themselves. The chaotic energy of a large household can wound the empathic sense. The child goes unrecognized and begins to believe that all they do is wrong.

A professional healer in any field (allopathic, energetic, or consciousness) that has poor boundaries as a consequence of a wounded empathic nature can find themselves energetically drained at the end of a day of working with others. These weakened boundaries may also contribute to a misunderstanding of the information being received. This person can lose track of their own needs in the face of working to meet the perceived needs of others. The filter through which this empathic information is received is colored with their own unmet needs. This healer is attached to the outcome. In a few years/months they may burn out.

Fears

  • Fears feeling bad
  • Fears other people’s feelings
  • Fear of knowing too much
  • Fear that they won’t know in time
  • Fear of harm/ hurt

Emotional States

 

  • Hide in the middle- This could be likened to hiding in plain sight. The person with a wounded empathic sense makes decisions based on not creating controversy or comment. They adjust what they say and do to stay safe. They stay safe by making sure they have pleased the people around them. They have spent so much time in this place they have lost touch with their authentic self. They no longer know what they believe or feel. They have taken on the beliefs of others to be safe. Their own needs are suppressed. They may find that when they have taken on too much of the energies of others they start to cry. If the person is asked the reason for their crying, they will not know. They just know that they have a deep inner sadness.
  • Can’t say no-They have an inability to say ‘no’. They take on more and more responsibility or tasks because if they say ‘no’ they may hurt someone’s feeling or make someone angry. If they hurt someone’s feelings or make someone angry then they will be hurt. They work very hard to please others. To them an angry person is very dangerous. They work to avoid confrontation with others.
  • Always a feeling of being in trouble-There is a nagging feeling in the center of their chest that they have done something wrong and they are about to get into trouble. This feeling is with them all the time. They have a constant feeling of living on the edge of disaster. They carry a projection that everything that goes wrong is their fault.
  • Sexual feelings are confused for love-Love based relationships have at their core confusion between sexual feelings and feelings of love from the heart. They commit themselves very quickly into relationships with no real understanding of the other person. They have come into the relationship with a distrust of their intuition so they don’t trust that level of information. The closeness brought about by a sexual relationship becomes their basis for love. This in time often leads to disillusionment. When the relationship fails or they can’t seem to do enough to please the other person they have just received validation that their feelings are dangerous and can’t be trusted. This results in the creative aspect being denied or shut down.
  • Masculine and Feminine out of balance-The feminine aspect is strong and reflects an over active anticipation of the needs of others. The masculine is weak and the person doubts themselves. They are certain they will fail and they are afraid to put themselves out there.
  • Skewed sense of appropriate social reactions- Family may have had drama queens/kings that were dominant in the family structure; mother, father, grandparent, etc. They dominated the conversation and energy in the household with their physical/emotional needs. The family dynamics led to no one else being allowed to express their own physical or emotional feelings safely. The expression of feelings was met with ridicule or shame. They learned early that it was risky to express your feelings. They also learned not to trust what they were feeling. Their feelings became a source of self-betrayal that would lead them to ridicule or shame. Intuition is not trusted and is suppressed. They may not know how to appropriately communicate their own feelings of physical or emotional discomfort. The ability to react appropriately to someone else’s physical or emotional discomfort has become dampened and may not be appropriate.
  • Always in a state of analysis- The mind of a person with a wounded empathic sense is constantly searching for the right answer, the right thing to say, and the appropriate reaction to external events. Their responses must be based on a logical thought process and not their feelings. Everything must be backed up by an analytical sequence of thought. If they are wrong there is no shame in a faulty logic process. The shame is felt if their response was based in feelings. If they made a mistake they will go back over every step in the sequence until they know exactly where the error occurred.
  • Sense of being alone- This person is in a constant state of inner turmoil. They have a feeling of being alone and that no one understands them. They have no inner peace.

Cross Indexing: Attention  Deficit Disorder, PTSD, ACOA, Addictions, Nausea, Headache, Headache-Migraine, Headache-Tension, Shoulder Problems, Anxiety, Depression, Wounded Creative Core, Skin Disorders, Autoimmune disorders, Lung disorders

Created Patterns

  1. Bad things happen when I’m not looking.
  2. Crying is for babies.
  3. Everything is my fault.
  4. I am always wrong.
  5. I am depressed.
  6. I am guilty for everything.
  7. I am in trouble.
  8. I am responsible for all bad things that happen.
  9. I am responsible for everything.
  10. I am shameful.
  11. I am to blame for everything.
  12. I am to blame when things go wrong.
  13. I can never let my guard down.
  14. I can speak my truth and be safe.
  15. I can’t let go of ________________.
  16. I can’t make a decision unless I have all the facts.
  17. I can’t paint/write/draw/____________(creative efforts).
  18. I can’t say no.
  19. I can’t shut my brain off.
  20. I can’t speak my truth and be safe.
  21. I can’t trust my family/people.
  22. I can’t trust my mother/father/brother/sister.
  23. I don’t know what it feels like to say no.
  24. I don’t know god’s definition of compassion.
  25. I don’t know god’s definition of love.
  26. I don’t know god’s definition of my authentic self.
  27. I don’t know how to feel.
  28. I don’t know how to feel safe in my body.
  29. I don’t know how to say no.
  30. I don’t know how to trust my feelings.
  31. I don’t know the different between my feelings and someone else’s.
  32. I don’t know what it feels like to trust my feelings.
  33. I don’t know what love feels like.
  34. I don’t know who I am.
  35. I don’t trust myself.
  36. I don’t understand the difference between sexual feelings and love.
  37. I don’t/ can’t trust my feelings.
  38. I must always be on alert.
  39. I must analyze everything before making a decision.
  40. I must do what others want me to do.
  41. I must take care of everyone else first.
  42. I must take care of others to be love/wanted/accepted.
  43. I must tell myself what to feel.
  44. I need permission to feel.
  45. I want to die.
  46. I will never be good enough.
  47. I’m no good at creative things.
  48. I’m not good enough.
  49. I’m not loved.
  50. If I relax someone will hurt me.
  51. It is safe to be in my body.
  52. It is safer to be analytical.
  53. It is weak to feel.
  54. Listening to my inner voice is dangerous/wrong.
  55. Love is pain/hurtful.
  56. My feelings are irrelevant.
  57. My feelings are wrong.
  58. No one will believe me if I tell them how I feel.
  59. No one will believe me if I tell them the truth.
  60. Others tell me what to feel.
  61. People are mean.
  62. People hurt me.
  63. People think I am lying.